What to Do if You Hold Grudges & Resist Forgiving Others

Forgiveness is a central part of the Christian faith.

Jesus taught us to forgive, as God has forgiven us (Ephesians 4:32).

Holding grudges or harboring resentment toward others not only harms relationships but also creates a barrier between you and God. If you find it difficult to forgive others, it may be a sign that your heart is not aligned with Christ’s example.

The world may advocate kindness when it’s convenient or forgiveness when it serves us, but God’s standard is higher and constant: unconditional love.

Jesus’ own words remind us, “If you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” (Matthew 6:15).

A hardened heart towards forgiveness signals that we have not fully embraced the grace that has been freely given to us.

Jesus’ life and ministry were marked by compassion and a love that reached across boundaries. He cared deeply for the marginalized, the lost, and those rejected by society. When asked about the greatest commandment, He said, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart… and love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39).

Following Christ means allowing His love and mercy to soften our hearts, teaching us to extend that same grace to others. By forgiving, we emulate Christ’s love and break free from bitterness, healing relationships and drawing closer to God.

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